Don't Forget to Date Your Partner
Life is hectic. There are always bills that should be paid. Things to do. Appointments to keep. Events to attend. Kid wrangling to do. However, time is something we don't get back. When it’s gone, it's gone. And when your husband/wife/boyfriend/fiance/fiancee/partner is a law enforcement officer (LEO) - we are reminded of this all too often. In all the hustle and bustle of daily life, don't forget to date your partner. You are his or her safe haven from their work and the world. Remind yourself why you fell in love with him or her. LET THEIR LOVE LANGUAGE BE YOUR GUIDE
If you know your partner's “love language,” use that to help shape a date or a trip with them. If time together is their key to happiness, plan a date or trip together. One without kids or extra family members. If gifts are their token of love, surprise them with a completely planned event. If physical touch is their love language, make a longer trip and pack a sexy negligee (or three!). Remember our recent blog post about keeping your relationship strong? I firmly believe that #5 is the key to a strong partnership - connecting is like oxygen for love.
Not sure where to get the money for a date, let alone a vacation? For some it can be skipping a few lattes or meals out. For others, your date may involve finding someone to take the kids for the weekend while you hunker down together at home with a box of wine and Netflix, and wake up when you feel like it. What you do isn't as important as who you're with! KILL THE ELECTRONICS...TEMPORARILY
Regardless of what your time together looks like, commit to turning off electronics (I'm speaking to myself here too.) Communication in today's world is a struggle, especially in LEO life where most conversations are not face-to-face. Put your phones down - turn off the TV - look into each other's eyes. Soak up each other and the scenery you are surrounded by on your date. Take in the details so you have a place to escape to during tough times.
My husband and I just got back from a long vacation while our son was with my parents. We had no phone service/WiFi most days, and limited TV channels. I’d be lying if I said I wasn't curious about how our time together was going to be. Talking face to face for days at a time? Just the two of us?
In all honesty, it was amazing to be “stuck" with just each other. We re-connected, talking about things other than our son, finances, and work schedules. (Spoiler: when I did check in on social media, I missed next to nothing. Note to self.)
We laughed more than we have in months, teasing each other and forming new “you had to be there" inside jokes. Held hands pretty much everywhere we went (if my husband tells you this was only because of crowds, he's lying!) It was like falling in love with him all over again.
It's these little things that remind me why I'm proud he's mine. He takes off his hat when we enter a building, because it’s polite. He opens doors for me, and holds them open for others. He researched places where we could eat on our trip that understood my food allergies. And he still gives me butterflies when I catch him glancing at me or he leans in for a kiss just because… the little things that at home, I sometimes forget to slow down to see.
Buy the Ticket - Take the Ride
It's easy to talk and connect when the stressors of regular life are put on pause - but that doesn't make it any less important. Get away for a few hours or a few days. You won't regret it.
About the Writer: Meghann R. is a Central MN Deputy Wife. Meghann and her LEO have been married 11 years and they have one son. She is a sassy nurse, Cub Scout Leader, and is currently serving as the Secretary of Backing the Blue Line. She enjoys a good cup of coffee, Patron margaritas, and spending time with family.